Becoming engaged marks the beginning of many things. It’s planning a wedding from start to finish. It’s the beginning of an eternal commitment. It’s the start of the rest of your life.
When my fiance proposed, I knew we were embarking down a road of constant lesson learning. Though this journey has already taught us many things about ourselves, I’m more amazed by what being engaged has taught me about life.
From the moment we saved the date to marry on October 12, 2014, I set out to wrap up our planning in the first three months. There were many questions to consider: What kind of gown did I want? What was my wedding style? Cake or no cake? What kind of favors was I going to have? Where would we book a honeymoon?
As the questions flew through my mind, I became dizzy. I finally realized why so many brides can go crazy from wedding planning: There are no right answers to these questions. You could spend hours, days or weeks making your mind up about something miniscule. It’s all dependent on where your priorities lie.
I knew early on that for me, I didn’t want to become consumed with wedding details… The priority was to make a decision and stick with it.
The pursuit of this goal made me think about how making wedding decisions is similar to how we go about our everyday lives. We can obsess and let daily decision-making own us, or we can own what we choose and move on in an adequate time and manner.
How often do we become overly concerned with things of a trivial nature? How often do we allow little things to get in the way of the bigger picture? I believe we make life harder than it has to be when we make mountains out of molehills. When we become obsessive about things, we lose sight of the bigger picture. We get distracted and tune the surrounding world out.
There’s nothing wrong with caring about something, but I do believe there is a difference between caring and stressing ourselves out/becoming consumed by things.
Like weddings, life can be as beautiful, memorable and satisfying as we want it to be—or it can be stressful, drama-filled and give us a never-good-enough feeling.
Either way, we can choose to not be consumed by the little details that cross our paths. And when we do get worked up about something or someone who gets in the way, we can enjoy the ride by constantly reminding ourselves of what is most important: love, life, and the joy and hope we have in Jesus Christ.